My Top Ten

I have been cleaning the house. STBEH took my daughter for an overnight visit, so I steam cleaned the master bedroom carpet and I am dismantling the home office. My parents are bringing over a desk they don't use, so I am going to try to make the room into mine instead of STBEH's! In other words, I am going to make it girlie somehow.

As I was cleaning, I found some old papers of mine. One was a list of the Top Ten things I want in a man. I wrote it back when I was vice-president of my church's singles class. It was an exercise that was supposed to help me recognize Mr. Right. I showed my list to a good friend once and he said, "isn't number 3 kinda a given?"

I don't know why but I have always been able to see past other's faults. I had to put in writing the 10 things that I just could not live with otherwise I can rationalize away a lot of things. My list has things like funny, smart, responsible, but I forgot to put does not emotionally abuse me or cheat on me or is available.

I used to believe there was a "Mr. Right" out there. That the stars had put one person out there and I had to find to live happily ever after. But now, I believe if two people are willing to say "together, forever, always, no matter what" that they can do it. I even believe that at times one person can being doing more work than the other but as long as it is "no matter what" it will all come out in the wash.

I don't think my list has changed much. There are two versions. Then there is some drunken hand writing that describes in detail what number 10 actually means. I don't think I will post those!!!